If you told me when I was nine years old, a regular and enthusiastic youth group member and bible study bookworm that I'd be done with the Church by the time I was 20, I wouldn't have believed you. If you told that same 20 year old me, snarky and oh so smugly self-assured that by the time I was 30 I'd not only be back in the Church, but meet with other members weekly for Bible study and discussion, he'd have laughed in your face. The Christian life isn't always predictable, we all face different challenges and experience different ups and downs, and what seems so clear and obvious now might be completely flipped on its head a few short years later.
Christian life, like regular life, doesn't come with an instruction manual. There are no steps to assembling a perfect walk with God, no clear diagrams that show exactly how to navigate the trials and tribulations that will come your way. We have to face these things on our own and learn for them.
That said, a few quick tips wouldn't hurt now and then! These are three of the lessons I had to learn the hard way that I wish someone would have told me when I started my Christian life.
1. Doubt is natural
Doubt is one of the scariest things a Christian will struggle with. A corrosive force that eats away at faith while making the doubter feel like less of a Christian - because we all know that real Christians never experience doubt, right?
Wrong. Every Christian struggles with moments of doubt from time to time. Life is not perfect, and faith isn't easy, there are always going to be times when your beliefs are challenged and doubt creeps in. Which is exactly how it should be honestly, if there was never any doubt to contend with, faith wouldn't mean much would it?
The truth is, God isn't threatened by doubt. He does not flinch when we ask questions, and He is always willing to show us the answers we seek when we ask them. What many of us really fear about doubt is how we'll be seen by others. That if we share these concerns with others, we'll reveal a weakness of spirit, or be seen as drifting away from the Church, succumbing to worldly concerns. It's the stigma we fear, not the doubt itself.
This is why we need to show our brothers and sisters in Christ understanding and sympathy when they express doubt. We need a community of support, not criticism. We need to recognize that doubt is natural and take away the shame associated with it.
2. You're not defined by what other Christians say or do
You're not going to love everything other Christians do. In fact, some of your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ are going to drive you up the wall. They're going to say things that you don't agree with, they're going to do things that puzzle you, and yes, non-believers are going to occasionally trot these people out and ask you to account for them. It will be frustrating.
But, you need to remember, your walk with God is not defined by what other people say or do. God is God, He is not what other people do in His name, and your occasional frustrations with his followers should always be directed towards them, and not towards God. Also, you're not your brother's keeper. Your walk with God is your own and you should not have to act as an apologist or whipping boy for what other Christians do. You have free reign to tell that to anyone trying to put you in that position.
3. You can always come back
When I was growing up, there were a few ugly instances in my Church where people made mistakes and suddenly found themselves no longer welcome. Not officially of course, the Church never tossed them out or told them to never come back, but the message was clear. A sustained campaign of slights, cold shoulders, and petty rumours made sure these followers of Christ felt like they could no longer call the Church home – and it scared me.
Later in life, when I had my own failures, when I drifted from the Lord, I was crippled with the fear that I would suffer the same kind of treatment. Even when I wanted to return to the fold, these fears held me back. It took me a long time to realize that it didn't matter. Whether or not people from my old Church would welcome me back was irrelevant - God was always ready, willing, and eager to welcome me back to his embrace, and that's what matters.
There is no sin or mistake so great that God won't accept you. He will never turn you away, the slate has already been wiped clean by the miracle of Jesus' sacrifice. When we stumble, He is there to pick us back up, not to scold us. Don't let fear of other people's pettiness keep you away from the light of God.
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